I downloaded the forms I need in order to file a name change with the state of NY. Also, drafted a letter to my father. I'm pretty sure he'll take it well, I just feel kind of bad for not talking to him sooner. Also, I'm working on a monogram.
You're a braver woman than me…3-4 weeks after I started HRT my stepmother and her daughter tried to contact me through facebook (my disused pre-transition account), I still haven't even dropped them a courtesy 'sorry going through things can't handle right now' message. I don't need that load of emotional turmoil on top of it all (I haven't seen or spoken to him for 14-15 years).
Family stuff can be weird. I'm not really that close to anyone and can probably write-off mostly anyone. We're all pretty liberal, though that doesn't eliminate the possibility of frustrating misunderstandings, bullshit platitudes about "whatever you need to feel happy", or benign misgendering.
I'm actually not even going to change my facebook account. I've been pretty open with everyone other than my father and co-workers, at least recently. I'm supposed to see my father in a little over 3 weeks, so I'd like to get this resolved soon. I was supposed to talk to him last Thanksgiving but just couldn't do it.
Yeah. My mother is trying hard, which I appreciate. Just have several other issues with her (which she doesn't know about yet; I have yet to figure out a way to bring them up to her without certain disaster following shortly) which mean it's difficult to interact with her. Plus all the goodies that come with Asperger's regarding (phone) communication and interaction. Gods I haven't even thought about my cousins…oh well, haven't seen them in forever anyways.
I'd actually abandoned the fb account well before I started transitioning; all my history with it is intimately tied to the particularly painful breakup (twice, even!) of my last actual relationship. It's all of 5-6 people anyways, only one of whom I ever talk to anymore.
If someone was gonna do it, of course it's gonna be Destin.
In other news, I mailed out the letter to my father. So that's something. I'm probably take it pretty well, provided the initial surprise doesn't kill him. It took me most of last night, on and off (mostly on) to re-edit the letter and then set up the margins and lines in the paper by hand, and then copy it out. Hopefully he will appreciate the effort I put in.